It’s fine to enjoy a character, but be careful not to use anime to escape reality. Some escapism is fine. It helps you relax, but waifuism can be bad for your psychological maturation. Reply Ezra H.
Yeah so crushes on anime characters are not much of a problem. It’s just normal like you like this one guy in Year 8, or you like this one girl for the way she looked at you in the cafeteria the other day. Only that its accessible through anime and manga or video games.
To answer your question: a guy can lust after a girl (or object of their affection; in my case that's another dude) forever. ;-) I mean, I can still think of guys I met 20 years ago that I would still love to have sexytime with.
You will have moments when you don’t feel depressed or lonely. Notice these moments. This will feed them. Next, indulge in a hobby separate from anime and manga. Hike, fish, draw, read, visit with friends, paint, or learn a new skill like Python programming or wood carving.
So yes, it’s normal and it’s unfortunate for us.
But when you are used to anime and you are familiar with the artstyle and the character development and you know that they are definitely not just children's cartoons. I think then it is a lot easier to understand that anime characters can be or become attractive while watching a series. Also your imagination.
Everyone needs a creative hobby. No matter what it is, make time for it. After binging on an anime, you’ve likely neglected your creative hobby. Now’s the time to return to it! You can use the story you’ve finished as creative fuel. Even if you aren’t into drawing anime characters, themes and other elements of the anime can offer inspiration. Sometimes I’ll find elements of an anime appear in my writing. And if you don’t have a creative hobby, take the time to experiment. Try different things until you find a hobby you enjoy. After bingeing (and who doesn’t binge nowadays?), the shift toward something creative will help the twinge of guilt you can sometimes feel after burning hours in front of a screen. Anime may inspire you to try a new hobby like an instrument or even playing a game like go.
Reading manga also engages your brain differently compared to passively watching an anime. This engagement allows you to digest the story and see how its components links together. It allows you to use deep-thinking mechanisms that screen time doesn’t use.
A good story will remain with you long after you finish it. The best stories will change your understanding of the world. And yes, anime can do that.
When it comes to depression, even mild depression following a good anime, you have to act. Inaction allows depression to fester. It can be difficult to act, but depression can only be stopped by changing your inner and outer landscapes. If you feel stuck, then you aren’t acting. It takes time to find what works.
The best stories will change your understanding of the world. And yes, anime can do that. Although it is mainly entertainment, anime–like all stories–can leave you with ideas you haven’t considered before. Characters can resonate with you and encourage you.
A guy who is just lusting after you won’t bother to do things like that because he’s not interested in having long conversations with you over dinner. A guy who is in love with want to know more about you, and he will take interest in you.
If he is bringing you out on the town, then you likely have nothing to worry about. It’s when a guy appears to be “hiding” you that you have something to worry about. It’s one thing if he starts bringing you out with his friends, but it puts you on a whole new level if he brings you to events with only couples, like game night. You pretty much have your answer right there. If he brings you to couple events, he isn’t interested in keeping things casual.
When you are in a relationship you are playing for keeps. Either you guys are never fighting because you have nothing invested in each other or things get explosive because no one wants to cave in an argument. "In infatuation, when one partner hurts the other, the trauma pulls apart the relationship.
If a guy is hiding things from you, that’s generally a bad sign. But if he’s an open book, it’s likely he wants to stick around in your life. The ways that he is open with you aren’t just about talking with you but also you can see it when he uses his phone openly around you.
When you are really in Samadhi then lust is not a threat, then you will not condemn lust. The really wise man, the really natural man, the really samadhist man will not condemn lust. Lust needs no transformation, you need transformation and your transformation is just about you moving into your essential nature.
If you are prepared to assert yourself with humor and confidence when he violates your limits, (by saying "no" to overly-enthusiastic sexual advances) then you might enjoy yourself with him. If you have trouble setting that limit or the sexual advances feel too threatening, don't date him.
One point not addressed is how physical intimacy can, for some, accelerate an emotional attachment. It's always been true for me but not all my partners. That dissonance can be quite jarring. If physical intimacy acts as that catalyst for you, be careful. It's like going from 0-100 in a car with a powerful engine.
He will not (no matter what he says). Love develops over time as you get to know a person. If he does not know you intimately, he does not love you. (He might love the idea of you he built up in his head, but that is not the same thing at all). When you first date someone look for a spark, an attraction, not love.
Apparently, you also need a friend to watch your back. There is more to relationships than love. Think of your relationship like a cake. Love is the frosting, Stability is the eggs, friendship is the sugar, trust is the flour, and sex is all the sprinkles, flavoring, and pizzazz.
The word “lust” in Scripture denotes a strong craving or desire, coveting something or someone. Some men, when they see a women that their mind registers as attractive, are easily racked with a sort of chronic guilt over the fact that they noticed someone’s attractiveness. This is not lust.
After finding no helper suitable for him, Adam at last meets Eve, someone perfectly suited to be his mate, and upon seeing her he erupts in a song full of anticipation and excitement, “This at last is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.”.
Men should not only guard their hearts against lust, but guard against their tendency to depersonalize women, seeing them only as physical beings. Admiring beauty in people is wonderful. But our idea of beauty must be transformed to reflect God’s perspective, not merely the ideas in our culture.